Episode 162 realities of being a parent from a father.

Today, I want to talk about how hard of a job it is to be a parent. There is not a lot of talk about the absolute difficulty of raising children. Planning to have kids is a very bad thing to do as it is. Planning to have children is the same as saying, yes, I want to be tortured for the next 18 years, as long as I do not die, I am completely fine with pain. The first thing to know about being a parent is that pain can not be directed; it just happens to everyone, usually without notice. There are things that can be done to avoid pain, if we know about the pain first. For example, we know that having children causes major, prolonged, drawn-out pain, but because there is a chance that something good may happen from that event, we do not care about that pain at all. I will tell you that the chance of something good happening does not outweigh the absolutely horrible life of suffering that those parents and their newborn child are going to go through. There will be times when bad things happen that you have no control over. Like when your toddler comes home from the sitter with bite marks on their arm? What can a parent do about that? Sure, you can call the sitter and be like WTF? This is what they are going to say to you. “I saw that, I am pretty sure I know how that happened, and as soon as I noticed it, I separated them right away.” That is all that can be done about that. The sitter noticed it and separated them immediately, and that is all that can be done. You absolutely can find a new sitter or take your child elsewhere. This problem is rampant, and it happens everywhere. There is no way to avoid it. The only way to avoid this problem is to employ a family member or friend to watch your child. There are risks there also. Raising children is a very hard thing to do, and something that needs to be considered is how that child is going to be cared for in the first 3 years of their life. The best thing to do is to imagine what your life will be like after that child is born. There is so much to know, and especially young parents do not know anything pretty much. The hospital will put all of you right out on the street after that child is born, and the mother is stable again. The real things start happening right then. The parents don't even consider what is happening at that moment. There are so very many things happening at that time, there is a new life now, we need to create folders and classifications for this new life. Let’s see here. What sex is that kid? Is that kid a twin (hopefully not)? Is that kid retarded? Does that kid have all of its limbs? Does that kid have all of its fingers and toes? Oh, it has an extra toe? Extra toes and fingers are okay, I guess we can just chop one of them off. It is when things are missing that we consider them to be a problem. No matter how that child appears, it is all the same, their parents have to love and care, and protect that child no matter what. Except right now, you can prevent all of that well-known torture with an abortion. It is a very invasive and barbaric surgery. If you remember exactly how bad of an event that was, you will forever understand and be grateful like I am that the condom was invented.

This can happen to anyone at any time, all you have to do to qualify is have a child.

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